Medical Psychology

This is a long post. This is just my mental note so that I do not forget these 2 important events.

Late last year, I had the scare of my life when I heard the news that 1 of my close friend went missing for almost a week. Knowing her and her character, we jumped to the worst conclusion ever. I just silently hope and prayed that she was fine. May Allah protect us all.

A week after the news that she was missing went viral on social media, she was found. She checked herself into a mental hospital and went for ruqyah sessions. Apparently she was a victim of black magic. The person who did that was someone who has been eyeing for her position in the university (my friend is a lecturer). I remember discussing her condition with my ex-bf. I simply asked him if anyone would find me in case i went missing. If anyone would even noticed that I was gone. Would he feel worried etc... Being a nice guy that he is, of course he gave me the kind of answer I want to hear.

Who would have known that, a few months after that, my ex-bf faced somewhat similar situation. However, his condition was more extreme because he was admitted into a mental hospital. He was diagnosed with psychosis. His mental just got disconnected with reality and he just keep on rumbling nonsense.

I get to visit him when he was less than 10 days in the hospital. Prior to the visit, I spoke with him over the phone almost everyday. Just asking him what he wants to eat, how is he doing etc and telling him that I am coming to visit. There was one time that he told me no need to come as he was planning to come over to KL. just to get away from things and rest. I just told him, i want to see him and let me know if he needs anything.

I flew to KK on a Saturday morning. A friend picked me up from the airport and we went to the hospital with 2 buckets of KFC coz that what he asked for. When we arrived, his family (mom, aunty and sisters) were already there. It was lunch time. The first time he saw me, he looked so confuse. As if he didn't know that I was coming to visit him. He walked towards me and gave me a huge hug. He whispered, "I'm sorry" and I replied "It's ok. You are ok". My take on his condition that day, he was just off. He was not himself. A part of him was being replaced by someone or some "thing" that I don't recognized. I sensed bits and pieces of him but his demeanor was just off.

The next day (Sunday), my flight out to KL was scheduled late in the evening. So I planned just to hang out with him. I told his family that they can take some time off and not worry about him that day. He seemed different on Sunday. He was himself. 95% himself. We talked about everything. We made plans. He was hopeful and positive which made me hopeful and positive as well.

2 days after I came back from KK, i flew to Osaka for a week. Upon my return form Osaka, I start researching his condition. From my reading, I think he went through psychosis due to marijuana consumption and developed bipolar disorder due to that. At that time, he was still in the hospital. I called to speak to him and felt that his spirit was dwindling. Its harder to speak to him as he slept more. When I get to speak to him, he sounded irritated. I pleaded to the family to get him out of the hospital as soon as possible. I can sensed that he is no longer doing well.

There was a long weekend holiday in February due to Chinese New Year. I decided to flew to KK just to check on him. If he was still not discharge, I just want to hangout with him and keep him company. I was down with fever and flu at that time. It was a prolonged condition had it since December. Probably due to the back to back flights during that period. A day before I was supposed to fly to KK, I got the news that he had been discharged. I texted him and told him that I will be in KK just recovering from my flu. We can get together whenever he feel like he is up to it. He just replied that he just want to stay home. I am fine with it.

I was in KK for 3 nights if I'm not mistaken. I spent a lot of time just walking around KK playing tourist. I also managed to go to the islands near KK. But since I was feverish, I couldn't really enjoy the water. The last night i was there, I texted his sister and told her that I want to drop by the next day. She was shocked to know that I was in KK but she was kind enough to invite me to her house.

I met him at his sister's place. He was depressed. His short term memory was bad. He hardly remember that I came to visit him a few weeks back but he still remember a lot of things from our past. He was suicidal and seeing him like that made me so sad. All I can do is to pray to God for his recovery. He sent me to the airport. We said our goodbyes and I felt that I said goodbye to a stranger. He is no longer the person I once knew.

We still keep in touch. He would sometime called me out of the blue. I think he is feeling much better now. He is no longer on medication but he still refuse to leave the house. His family took him to Thailand but he doesn't look like he enjoyed himself. I texted his sister once in awhile just to check on him. He is well and that is all that matters.

The whole experience ignites my interest in psychology. I was first introduced to this subject when I was in high school. I did consider getting my bachelor degree in psychology but my family (aka. my uncle Podin), was (and still is) against the idea. Researching on the conditions suffered by both my friends made me realized that I really like reading materials on psychology decided to take up a master course in medical psychology with a local university. From my research also I found out that Malaysia do not have enough psychiatrist and mental illness is no. 2 silent  killer after heart condition among Malaysians. I received the invitation to go for interview last week and decided to turn it down since my current personal affairs is too hectic at the moment. I might try to apply again next year, insyaAllah. If I could help people get better, I want to do that. I want to be useful to the people in need. May Allah ease and protect us all.

Gratitude List No.1 for 2019

Its been awhile since I wrote down the things I am grateful for these days. I do a lot of oral gratitude these days. Alhamdulillah, I have been taking care of my mandatory prayers and through those, I verbalize my gratitude.

First of all, I am grateful for this health and life and opportunity that God has given me. The gift of  having a healthy life in this beautiful world is something that no one should ever forget. This amazing life I have is all thanks to Allah. He gave me happiness by sending me so many beautiful souls, friendly faces, miracles after miracles that I witness just by looking at all His creations. SubhanAllah.. I hope and pray that Allah grants me the ability to discover more beauty and only to see the beautiful side of everything.

I am so happy and grateful for the job that I have. My company pays me handsomely. Treat me fairly and always take care of my welfare. Other than that, I am so blessed to have amazing colleagues who always cheer me up and assist me in anyway they can. I am happy for the opportunity to be apart of huge projects that is being undertaken by the Company.

I am so happy and grateful for the love of my life that God has just sent to me. He is so considerate, so loving and thoughtful. He cares for me and the amount of love he has for me, MasyaAllah... I hope and pray that he will take me to Jannah and this love we have for each other last all through out our life.

I am grateful for the fact that Allah is always so merciful to all of us. Keep on asking for His forgiveness, keep on doing all the things to please Him, keep the faith and never lose hope in Allah, insyaAllah, He will guide you..

Happy weekend everyone.

Thoughts

InsyaAllah, I will be entering into a new chapter of my life this coming December. The opening of this new chapter also opens several new ventures that I need to consider. When I say "I" its actually "we" since it will be "our" chapter.

I am feeling slightly overwhelm with the whole thing hence this post. I need to sort out my thoughts so that I do not implode.

Current situation:

Eddy works in Putrajaya. Has kids in Putrajaya and a fully functional (crazy parking space situation) public servant's residence. It takes him almost an hour (46mins to be exact) for him to go to Putrajaya from Damansara (vice versa). He doesn't have a reliable car.

Meanwhile, I am working near my house here in Damansara. But my house is a studio unit which is not suitable to house 2 adults with 2 kids. I have a car, which is old, break down once in awhile but still roadworthy. 

Conundrum:

After we get married, we are "supposed" to live together under the same roof. Since I live near my workplace, it will be easy for me to walk to and fro so it would make sense if Eddy moved in with me. But, since my house is a studio unit, it would not be reasonable for us to keep living in that unit. Where will the kids sleep when they come over? Plus, Eddy has to commute to Putrajaya using my old car. I am not sure how long can the car "tahan" with that sort of mileage every single day.

Initial plan (which is actually "my plan" which will be subjected to many opinions from my mom and concurrence by Eddy)

It would only make sense if I get a house with at least 2 bedrooms in the same building I am currently staying. With regards to the car, it would only be prudent if we change it to a newer more reliable car.

Both plans require new financial obligations which we may not be willing to take on at this moment. The wedding itself requires money (like a lot). It has been paid for (by my parents), but there are a few other small things to compliment the event itself which will come up to almost 10K from my own pocket. I have promised my mom, to transfer to her a fixed sum of money to pay for the wedding. I am not in deficit (yet) but seeing the bills to slowly pile up and my money flowing out of my bank account like tap water is not fun ok.

Let see how this weekend goes.